Natalia
Alexandrova
psychologist and sexologist
problems I work with
🍓 sexology
  • rejection of your own body and shyness
  • fetishes
  • BDSM
  • female anorgasmia
  • sexual performance anxiety of males
  • helping homosexual couples
  • disgust to sex
  • madonna–whore complex
  • sexual abuse
  • cuckolding
  • compulsive masturbation
  • prolonged virginity
⚡️ psychological traumas
People of any age can experience psychological traumas. Children have them more often comparing to adults. Encapsulated traumas have a hidden influence on further life of an adult.
How can you know if you had a psychological trauma:
  • inadequate psychological reactions, strong physical or emotional reactions to ordinary events, objects or people
  • lost memories about childhood events

I help with:
  • childhood traumas
  • prenatal traumas
  • death of loved ones, car accidents with severe health damage, experience of nature disasters or acts of terrorism
  • child loss (miscarriages, abortions)
  • divorce
💔 toxic relationships
How can one identify toxic relationships? Those are kind of relationships, that does not make anyone happy and can psychological or physical disorders.

Signs of toxic relationships:
  • consumerist attitude
  • derision
  • constant quarrels
  • inability to discuss problems openly
  • self-hate and feeling of unhappiness
  • manipulations
🚬 addictions
  • love addiction
  • sexual addiction
  • frequent change of sexual partners
  • compulsive masturbation
  • religious addiction
  • video games and gambling addiction
  • food addiction
  • other types of addictions
🔥 aggression
Aggression can be active or passive, directed outwards or inwards (autoagression), physical and verbal, defensive and provoking, healthy and destructive. Aggression is a type of action or a state, and aggressivness is kind of personal trait — a habit to react aggressively to anything.

Healthy aggression is a type of energy that is impossible to survive without. For creating and and become realized, to protect yourslef and develop we need aggression. One of key skills that any person needs is an ability to identify, accept and control your aggression, so you can express your feelings to another person in civilized way.

Passive aggression is unhealthy. Types of passive aggression: irony, humiliation, discontent, irritation, ignoring, gossiping, insults, making fun of, intrigue, manipulations and sabotage.

  • outbreaks of aggression
  • verbal aggression
  • passive
  • autoaggression
  • self-destructing behaviour
  • unability to protect yourself
  • repression of aggression
  • lack of healthy aggression
🏚 posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
PTSD - is a heavy type of disorder, that appears as a result of repeating or one-time events, provoking strong psychological damage to a person. Symptoms are: obsessive memories, nightmares, sleep disturbances, outbreaks of aggression, drug addictions.
🕷 fears and phobias
Phobia is a symptom, describes as irrational and uncontrolled fear or sustainable anxiety in curtain situations or in the presence of a curtain object.

Amount of phobias is uncountable. It is easy to get rid of them though. Such a condition is easier to cure then an anxiety, because phobia has a particular object of fear (spiders, open/closed space, males, etc.) Anxiety is more global feeling.
🥀 depressive state and suicidal thoughts
Symptoms:
  • depressed state, long-lasting discouragement;
  • rolling up into a shall, especially if previously the person tended to be socially active and extraverted;
  • depressed mood, slow thinking and speech, motor inhibition, loss of interest to life, feeling guilty, sleep and appetite disordersю

One can suddenly start thinking/talking of life being senseless or suicide.

Other symptoms:
  • worsening of health
  • lack of desire to fulfill natural needs
  • indifference to family and friends
  • mood swings
  • apathy
  • slow reaction
  • chronic diseases

Types of depression:
1. Neurotic depression (Dysthymia)
2. Psychogene depression
3. Parental depression
4. Somatogenic depression
5. Retarded repression
6. Teenage depression
7. Latent depression
🔪 feelings of guilt and resentment
Guilt and resentment — links of one chain. When you experience resentment, the feeling of guild is being inflicted on another person, and vise versa: if you feel you offended someone, you automatically inflict a feeling of guilt to yourslef.

Resentment: self-pity, anger at the offender, rage and shame, pride and unwillingness to share or discuss your feelings. Behind restrained tears lurks a sea of anger, disappointment and even rage. Love is an inextricable component of resentment. Indeed, people are offended by those whom they love, which means that they are expecting for love in return.

Feeling of guilt carries a destructive energy, programs the body for self-destruction. This inwardly directed aggression is an ideal way to punish yourself for your own mistakes. It is important to understand that our guilt is not always justified. Often, we feel guilty when we do not bear any responsibility. And sometimes we don't feel guilty, although we should.
💧 loss of loved ones (death, separation, perinatal loss)
The reaction of loss can be caused not only by death of a loved one, but also, by removing a part of the body (arm, mammary gland), breaking family ties (divorce), dismissal from work, leaving home, team, etc.

The reaction of loss can be manifested as:
  • emotional shock
  • numbness, anxiety
  • crying
  • disturbed sleep
  • appetite loss
  • narrowing of consciousness on traumatic experiences
  • constant thinking of the deceased
  • mental anguish
👁 panic attacks
  • Unbearable fear
  • Cardiopalmus
  • Dyspnea
  • Dizziness and nausea
  • Sudden changes in body temperature
  • Trembling throughout the body
  • Depersonalization and derealization
  • Chest pain and fear of death

Duration approximately 15-30 minutes
🧼 obsessive–compulsive disorder (OCD)
Obsessive thoughts, irrational fears and rituals — till some level we all do have them. How to understand if your behaviour isn't something you want to discuss with a psychologist?

Symptoms of people with OCD:
  • They try to make deals with themselves
  • They experience a compulsive need to perform some irrational rituals
  • It is hard to convince them their habits are senseless
  • Normally they remember when their symptoms begun
  • Anxietry

Obsessions are unwanted thoughts, motives or images, the presence of which causes vivid discomfort or anxiety. The dominant theme of obsessive thoughts can be harm or risk to oneself and others, danger, infection, doubt, loss or aggression. For example, patients may be haunted by the thought of contracting bacteria through dirt if they do not wash their hands every 2 hours or more often. Obsessions are unpleasant for the patient. Therefore, they try to ignore and/or suppress these thoughts, motives, or images. Or neutralize them by performing compulsions.

Compulsions (often called "rituals") are excessive, repetitive behaviors, which help patients to prevent or reduce anxiety caused by obsessive thoughts, or to neutralize obsessive thoughts themselves.

Examples:
  • Washing (e.g. hand washing, showering)
  • Check (for example, whether the stove is off, the doors are locked)
  • Counting (e.g. repeating a certain behavior a number of times)
  • Organizing (for example, organizing a desktop or kitchenware according to a certain scheme)
Most rituals, such as washing hands or checking locks, are obvious, but some rituals, such as silent counts or statements under your breath, are not seen by others. Usually, compulsive rituals must be performed in a certain way in strict accordance with rules.
🎭 personality disorders
Personality disorder occurs when personality traits (a set of fairly stable ways of thinking, perception, reaction and interpersonal relationships) become so vivid, rigid and maladaptive that they ruin a person's lifestyle, interfere with work and affect interpersonal relationships.

Signs of a personality disorder:
  • A person constantly has a mutual misunderstanding with others
  • Distorted perception of reality
  • They often spoil pleasure moments of others
  • They don't understand that "no" means no
  • They are trying to make victims out of themselves
  • They have an imbalance in personal relationships
  • It's very difficult for them to change themselves
  • They blame others
  • They are prone to outright lies
  • They tend to live in fantasies

Types of personality disorders:
  1. borderline personality disorder
  2. schizoid personality disorder
  3. schizotypal personality disorder
  4. paranoid personality disorder
  5. histrionic personality disorder
  6. narcissistic personality disorder
  7. avoidant (anxious) personality disorder
  8. obsessive-compulsive personality disorder
  9. dependent personality disorder
  10. antisocial personality disorder
🍴 eating disorder
Eating disorder is a psychogenetically determined behavioral syndrome associated with eating disorders.

Types:
  1. anorexia nervosa
  2. bulimia nervosa
  3. binge eating
  4. psychogenic vomiting
  5. eating inedible inorganic objects in adults
  6. psychogenic loss of appetite

There are a number of other kinds of eating disorders that science has not yet agreed on:
  • orthorexia — an obsessive desire to eat right, eat only healthy food;
  • selective eating disorder — a refusal to eat specific foods, developing into the use of only a limited list of foods and reluctance to try new types of food (the principles of choosing foods can very: color, species, vegetarianism. etc);
  • obsessive-compulsive overeating — this disorder is usually represented by obsessive memories and ideas (beautifully served table, a refrigerator filled with food), obsessive desires and actions (looking at illustrations in cookbooks, participating in cooking and table setting).
🧠 psychosomatic diseases
Diseases caused by psychological factors:
  • problems with the respiratory system
  • heart and vascular disease
  • eating disorders
  • diseases of the gastrointestinal tract
  • diseases of the endocrine system
  • problems with the skin
  • gynaecological diseases
  • disorders of the sexual sphere
  • oncology
  • diseases of infectious origin
  • diseases of the musculoskeletal system
  • psycho-vegetative dysfunction
  • headache
  • autoimmune diseases

Psychological causes are easily detected during counseling.
Working with a client's soul is like working in a garden
Some plants blossom. Some dry out because of lack of attention, inappropriate care or parasites. Some have not yet pecked and keep sleeping underground, hiding their potential and beauty. Some are covered with spider web in a far corner, because the client prefers not to see them and pretends those don't belong here. There are weeds in the garden, seeds of which have taken root without client's knowledge and desire
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During sessions, the client turns into a gardener who, with my help and support, brings their garden to the best possible look.
I have had a lot of sessions and have heard the most unusual stories, so it's very hard to surprise me with anything. I never judge my client's desires and life experience and always listen to them seriously and with understanding
education
  • Novokuznetsk State Pedagogical Academy, degree in "foreign languages", teacher of German and English
  • psychological education on the basis of teacher education: professional retraining of Academy of Continuing Professional Education in Kurgan, Organization and conduct of psychological counseling and psycho-diagnostics
  • International Academy of Complementary Medicine in Moscow, "Practical sexology for psychologists"
  • Novokuznetsk State Institute for Advanced Medical Studies, "Basics of psychotherapy, psychohygiene, psychoprophylaxis, medical and practical psychology, prevention of addictions"
  • advanced training at the Institute of Consulting and System Solutions in Moscow, program "Psychiatry for Psychologists"
  • Moscow Institute of Psychoanalysis, "Clinical Psychology" - will graduate in 2020
working methods
  • emotional-image therapy by Linde
  • art-therapy
  • gestalt therapy
  • neuro-linguistic programming
  • psychoanalytic therapy
  • simboldrama (guided imagery)
  • internal family systems therapy by Schwartz
  • transactional analysis
  • metaphorical cards
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prices
1 hour session : €60 / $65 / ₽5000 / лв100

people under 25 years old can request a reduced price
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